Black women in America, for your own health and safety, please face the fact that this is abuse and STOP accepting abusive treatment. You can't cure an abuser. You can't get them to see the error of their ways by tears or by reason. They are a lost cause. It's that simple. Unless you want them to take you down in flames with them, you need to leave. End the cycle of abuse and save yourself. You do this by NOT limiting your dating pool to one group of men who mainly don't respect or appreciate you. * Not all abuse is physical. Hate propaganda is a form of abuse. * Not all abuse occurs in one-on-one relationships. There's such a thing as group abuse.